I am going to look at things again tonight. I made the changes that Furry requested me to make and I went in and turned DNS relay off and put in the settings for OPEN DNS on all the equipment on my network. I previously set the OPEN DNS on my router and allowed it to handle all DNS to all devices on my network.
Played a few games after messing with everything again to get Open NAT on both boxes. The game ran horribly. It was unbelievably bad. Went back in and changed the QoS from 50 (what furry recommended) back to 1 and the game ran as bad as it usually does but better than when I had it set to 50.
Once again I had to do this that and the other thing to get Open NAT on both consoles. I am starting to get sick of messing with all of this. I can't imagine how overwhelmed someone who doesn't like tech would be trying to get all of this working. Probably accounts for all the bad reviews that amazon has on routers
You know just thinking about this and looking at how many pages we have in this thread is mind blowing. It seems like a problem like this would be very about 5-7 posts max. lol This is clearly an area that needs extensive refinement in ease of use for customers. Maybe the 5500 will change things?