Went back to 1.02.10 firmware, reset extender, did wireless setup and have white status light and 3 white bars. Not listed as an extender, going to let it set a while and see if it shows up. It DID show up as an extender after initial out of the box setup that's how I upgrade firmware, BUT it's not showing up now.
Also, going to reboot router when there are less people around. Seems strange that it would be seen after first setup but not now.