Hi retread,
You keep mentioning the D-Link Utility. I don't have the D-Link Utility installed at all, because when I first got the Card, I did installed the Utility and it would cause the Blue Screen of Death.
I am only using the Drivers for the Card, not D-Link's Wireless Utility. Uninstall the D-Link Software and reboot.
Go to the Device Manager and see if the Card is still installed. If not, point it towards the drivers that you unpacked. And now let Windows install the Drivers for the card. Make sure the Ethernet port is disabled in Computer Bios. However, it conflicts.
Reboot the computer. Now manually type in the information for your Network and remember to connect, even when not broadcasting. Are you using WEP or WPA2 Only! Encryption?
Once you enter the proper information, reboot the computer and let Windows connect to the Router.