I GOT IT I GOT IT

wire the DPR1260 directly to your computer
go to 'networks' on Vista
look for the Dlink router to show up along with whatever computers are on your network.
Double click the router and it should bring up internet explorer or your default browser. then you can go in and change your settings!
I called customer support and the guy was very helpful even though this router is so far out of warrranty. Excellent customer service in my opinion- I also told him I see that problem A LOT on the forums.
I can post a sequence of screenshots if anyone needs it....