I hope this get's heard

I have posted on this forum a while back w/ my problem of frequent disconnections using this router,
http://forums.dlink.com/index.php?topic=14562.0
Cut to the story short, NO it's the the MODEM, no it's not FIRMWARE problem, no it's not Hardware fault.. AND it's KINDA the ISP but NOT REALLY..
YOu see, our ISP here are notorious for ping RTO's from time to time and it's been bad for the past few months...and with these RTO's come from time to time a chain of RTOs like:
Reply from 98.137.149.56: bytes=32 time=386ms TTL=54
Request timed out.
Reply from 98.137.149.56: bytes=32 time=383ms TTL=54
Reply from 98.137.149.56: bytes=32 time=396ms TTL=54
Reply from 98.137.149.56: bytes=32 time=389ms TTL=54
Request timed out.
Reply from 98.137.149.56: bytes=32 time=375ms TTL=54
Reply from 98.137.149.56: bytes=32 time=410ms TTL=54
Reply from 98.137.149.56: bytes=32 time=524ms TTL=54
Request timed out.
Reply from 98.137.149.56: bytes=32 time=362ms TTL=54
Reply from 98.137.149.56: bytes=32 time=368ms TTL=54
Reply from 98.137.149.56: bytes=32 time=392ms TTL=54
Reply from 98.137.149.56: bytes=32 time=390ms TTL=54
Reply from 98.137.149.56: bytes=32 time=361ms TTL=54
Reply from 98.137.149.56: bytes=32 time=324ms TTL=54
Request timed out.
Request timed out.
Request timed out.
Request timed out.
Request timed out.
Request timed out.
Request timed out.
Request timed out.
Request timed out.
Reply from 98.137.149.56: bytes=32 time=1424ms TTL=54
Now, this is not me/my DSL modem getting disconnected from the ISP's network yet, as the DSL light is still ON .. it's just extreme LAG or RTO .. but the problem is the DGL-4500's detecting this as a DISCONNECTION (PPPoE type by the way).. BUT NO it's not a disconnect, it's merely RTO and 5 other routers w/ LOGGING turned ON does not conclude this as DISCONNECT, they just stand their ground stay conncted till the pings come back..
Now, while this is ok as the DGL 4500 is set to auto connect (PPPoE) the MAIN PROBLEM is Bandwidth profling... because these RTOs, while it would cause log, are really not LONG ENOUGh to get me disconnected from my sessions (IM, logged in sessions, even gaming) , but since the router does this bandwidth profiling every new connection where in it RESTRICTS all internet access during the process of MEASURING my bandwidth, w/c takes anywhere from 5-15 seconds , this is the nail that seals the coffin on my current session....
So please, is there a way to STOP/DISABLE automatic bandiwdth profiling this router? I love this router but im gona have to return it if this doesnt get solved

Also, would increasing the TTL settings on the router keep it from concluding a CHAIN OF RTO as a DISCONNECTION?
Regards
TJ