Well, comcast came out today and ran a new line to the house just as a precaution. I still have my doubts but will watch it under 1.11 and then perhaps over the weekend I will try going to 1.21 w/o securespot. From there I may try the 1.21 securespot code again but this time turn off the spam server.
Pingplotter was a great help watching to see when it came up. Since I changed back to 1.11 I still see a few straglers of high latency and packet loses but just chalk those up to the rest of the network doing its thing,
Now that you mention the spam server, I did notice the router connecting to it alot throughout the day, but I am surprised that the spam server would care about voip packets unless there's a proxy in there thats causing it.