Reading your post, I assume you are using the European version. The last "real good" firmware without feature overload I had on this device was a 1.12ww version.
ftp://lizzi555.dyndns.org/Download/WLAN/DLINK/DIR/DIR-655/Firmware/old/DIR655A3_FW112B00beta.bin
•Port forwarding
Never had problems with my two http and ftp servers and different other ports for management.
•SIP ALG (for Cisco PAP2T)
Sorry, never owned this device.
•Stable and fast wireless operation without WISH, QoS, etc.
1.12 was fast and reliable at least with my Atheros and Ralink 11N Cards.
1.2x and higher do not have the same performance for me but are also very compatible with other chipsets.
•Ideally don't choke on <= 1000 simultaneous connections
This is also a question of the hardware (memory...).
Don't compare a Cisco or Lancom with a D-Link which costs only a fourth of them.
It is a SOHO Router and does its work fine here.