Thanks for all the hints and tips.
Went through the list e.g. factory reset etc. took a while to get all back.
Assigned all static IP's, ( to some devices, I don't have access, I believe they use MAC ID's ) still losing signals on the the camera's ( all static IP's ).
Actually, I changed settings in the camera's to lower the load (now less than 3%), not that the wired surveillance server couldn't handle it.
Also, some of the smart home devices, still have problems to stay awake.
Played with some suggested router settings, to no avail.
Again, all devices have, static IP's, except where I can't access and reasonable to good signal strength.
To be honest, I have never in my 30+ years with computer networking, experienced anything like this, then again this was mostly wired and not too smart.
I think the DIR878 is too smart and thereby gets really dumb.....
I'll reset my 16 port Gigabit switch, just in case there is something funky.
A lot of settings aren't accessible to the user and the router makes its own, maybe not so smart, decisions.
If I can't find a solution for this, I think I am doomed to go to the competition, shelling out a few more bucks.
It's just money!!!!
"Just as I am writing this and listening to Internet Radio programming, my Echo Dot lost signal again, played out the cache and then was silent for about 10-15 seconds, recovered and plays again"
This thing is 4 feet away from the router?

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And again the Echo Dot lost signal or got dropped, and back again.
I can't believe this is normal!!!
Thanks
P.S. The WAN side and modem is working as expected, speed tests show 200Mbits down and around 25Mbits up.