I have the same problem with no_new_conn_for_this_packet.
In my case:
TCP SYN Idle Lifetime: 60
TCP Idle Lifetime: 262144
TCP FIN Idle Lifetime: 80
UDP Idle Lifetime: 130
Ping Idle Lifetime: 8
Other Protcols Idle Lifetime: 130
I have played a bit with these timeouts, but I have not noticed any important improvements.
Anyway, is not the TCP Idle Lifetime too big? (in my case, dfl-2500, 262144 is default)